Wednesday, April 8, 2009
Jamie asked us today.... what do you wish to transform? Again deep questions. Hmmm I could go several directions here I guess - like my yard. But I think I will go with one about something within myself.
I was recently reminded by a dear friend (you know who you are - thank you hon), that perhaps I should revisit an old friend of mine... the book "Co-dependent No More". She offered (with honey) that it might help me, dealing primarily with my daughter and a few other issues she has been helping me work through. Uhmmmmm yup she's right.... my boundaries in certain areas have become a bit trampled on. I need to address them, I need to transform my boundaries.... again.
I worked through this book many years ago in depth and have found it necessary to revisit every few years or so. I find I have become much better over the years at creating and holding boundaries. But of late it seems I have several people who don't respect them, some are like carnivores, constantly pacing the perimeter looking for a breach and attacking through any weakness in my fences. Others are more like herbivores, grazing right over the lines, not really intending harm, just oblivious to the bound ires and having to be reminded -alot!!!
I have discovered over the years, that people do not like me making boundaries especially the carnivores. They want what they want and push until I am exhausted, then manipulate some more. It seems at the moment I am needing electric fence for these folks. So I would like to transform not only my boundaries, but the ability to ignore the pressure to fold and stand firm. To take better care of me, this is a hard one for me. So, there is my wish - to transform my attitude towards valuing myself and keeping my boundaries so I can do that effectively.