tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post8172623273545720206..comments2024-01-25T05:38:45.384-08:00Comments on Cottage Garden Studios: Quilting Bee #27Sarah Sullivanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03835112406617937224noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-51190500314875823352009-10-12T15:36:43.840-07:002009-10-12T15:36:43.840-07:00Wow. Sarah, I can't tell you how timely your p...Wow. Sarah, I can't tell you how timely your post is for me. All I can say is that sometimes, that pebble seems to grow wings and fly right back no matter how hard you try to leave it behind. :(<br />blessings<br />~*~Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12997549543731061699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-83295817727024893162009-10-12T15:15:16.731-07:002009-10-12T15:15:16.731-07:00A very open and honest post Sarah; pulled a few st...A very open and honest post Sarah; pulled a few strings here.<br /><br />The pebble and the pond; yea, I think I'll always remember that now.holdingmomentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16455039696354576430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-8414781036861827732009-10-12T15:03:20.114-07:002009-10-12T15:03:20.114-07:00Me too sarah LOL I left one on my blog :)Me too sarah LOL I left one on my blog :)Treasured Wisheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17220944015995076837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-5395313654136922442009-10-12T14:29:42.170-07:002009-10-12T14:29:42.170-07:00Hey I left you an award on my blog!!!! Go see!!Hey I left you an award on my blog!!!! Go see!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08990684536046097505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-50002965003022598332009-10-12T13:17:01.949-07:002009-10-12T13:17:01.949-07:00You know what I would regret? I would regret not ...You know what I would regret? I would regret not having the chance to know you and like you very much now that I know you are here.<br /><br />That would be a true regret!Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10972581158834240144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-47222634716753595052009-10-12T12:48:09.421-07:002009-10-12T12:48:09.421-07:00Dearest Sarah, you have me crying here hon! I am s...Dearest Sarah, you have me crying here hon! I am so sorry to read of your heartache and helplessness through that horrible time. So happy to read of your happier times as you threw that pebble with all your might! I think you are wonderful! ((((hugs))))clairedulalunehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13016107591509306202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-66770087447561967422009-10-12T12:15:18.037-07:002009-10-12T12:15:18.037-07:00Why is it so hard to let it go sometimes? Most of...Why is it so hard to let it go sometimes? Most of us have regret and I admire the way you have dealt with it.<br /><br />Makes me even more thankful for my mostly happy childhood. And it gives me even more incentive to help foster a healthy and rewarding childhood for my children.<br /><br />You inspire me. I appreciate your honesty. Glad to have found your blog.Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02970099218868566265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-16807260097529866892009-10-12T12:02:00.656-07:002009-10-12T12:02:00.656-07:00I've started a reply to this post three times ...I've started a reply to this post three times and each time, closed the box without leaving a comment. This was so touching with so much deep sharing...I thank you for letting us in on your regret as painful as it was. You are a wise woman to know that any regret is for a learning purpose and to then throw it away as the rock in the pond. regrets will feed on our weekest moments and eat away at us unless we cast them aside and realize they are the past and not the present or future. They are all what has brought us to this place in time. My regrets? I know of many things that I wished I hadn't done but take them as pieces that have molded me to who I am today. <br />As always, Sarah...a favorite Monday meeting place for me. Hugs out to you and yours for living through those regrets and being WHO you are today!Alicia @ boylerpfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11494653464202092752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-31320142483231840632009-10-12T10:28:09.539-07:002009-10-12T10:28:09.539-07:00Thank you all!! You words have touched my heart!! ...Thank you all!! You words have touched my heart!! <br />I have let go of it and have moved on! The girls and I have spent alot of time dealing with the past and letting the pebbles rest!! Thank you all for coming by!! Hugs, SarahSarah Sullivanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03835112406617937224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-684948707212019752009-10-12T10:25:56.365-07:002009-10-12T10:25:56.365-07:00Sarah what a meaningfull post. You are probably h...Sarah what a meaningfull post. You are probably helping so many people by writing so honestly.<br /><br />I think you need to let the regret go and work on what you can now. The regret is useless.<br /><br />I love you beautiful friend.<br /><br />Love Renee xoxoReneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11785932958464359112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-7456151048329640502009-10-12T08:33:48.959-07:002009-10-12T08:33:48.959-07:00Thank you for sharing this. I am so sorry you and...Thank you for sharing this. I am so sorry you and your girls had to experience this. I can't even imagine.<br /> And so so good for you to learn from this and to share with the rest of us. That is such a good analogy. Thank you for that.Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-52656334688085746872009-10-12T07:39:04.236-07:002009-10-12T07:39:04.236-07:00Wonderful Post Sarah!! I have the same kind of re...Wonderful Post Sarah!! I have the same kind of regrets as you although the circumstances are different. I made decisions that effected my sons and they never let me forget it. What I learned was it wasn't just me that made up the family. All the other adults involved had a part. I had to look at only my part. When I did I realized most of the harm had not even come from me. I say that because I think in your circumstances it definitely is not your regret to carry but his. You may have suffered from being seperated from your girls and they may have too but they would have suffered if you had stayed too. You gave them an example of a strong woman who had sense enough to save herself. So many women stay in an abusive relationship for the kids and it never turns out good. I think you did what you needed to so they had somewhere to go when they were old enough.<br />The system is still on the abusers side. I've had experiences lately with my grandchildren and can not believe the decisions the judges made. They gave the children back to the monsters that abuse them.<br /><br />Like you I too go chasing after the pebbles, usually late at night when I'm trying to sleep. But I am a child from a marriage in which the man stayed for the children and it did not turn out good. We all have to learn the lesson of forgiveness, forgiveness sets us free. We also like to try to safe our children from experiencing pain but its a painful world and what we can do for them is become the best person we are capable of being and be there for them when they need us.<br />Sorry I had such a loooong reply but it is a subject close to my heart. You are a wonderful mother right now, today. And that's all we have anyway is right now. The present.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08990684536046097505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-91647604266948350352009-10-12T07:36:15.574-07:002009-10-12T07:36:15.574-07:00Sound advices indeed. I was so regretful, anxious ...Sound advices indeed. I was so regretful, anxious and depressed before that suicide actually wasn't far away. <br /><br />It is hard to explain unless you have actually been there yourself. How years of illness, bullying, traumas and bad choice in people who you associate yourself with can take you further and further down into a downward spiral. <br /><br />But I know know that things can turn around. Step by step. How art, music and positives can save people from drowning in the past. And part of the wisdom is what you point out: let that pebble rest at the bottom of the sea.Suecae Soundshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04949168285331693357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-41545970151203536332009-10-12T06:38:56.480-07:002009-10-12T06:38:56.480-07:00An important and beautiful post, dear Sarah. Your...An important and beautiful post, dear Sarah. Your insights are hard won, meaningful and psychologically sound.<br /><br />We do our best and cannot control everything. Seems to me your impulse to protect your children was wise and a lot of what you regret was due to the whim of a judge and you could not control that.<br /><br />You are one talented, sweet, kind, wise, warm woman and your children are very lucky to have you as their mother.Bonnie Zieman, M.Ed.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00282469017360136275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-15361093631466413232009-10-12T06:16:53.861-07:002009-10-12T06:16:53.861-07:00{{{{{{Sarah}}}}}}
I hope your story helps others...{{{{{{Sarah}}}}}} <br /><br />I hope your story helps others. The pebble in the pond ... AMEN!<br /><br /> (I do believe *writing* is in the genes of you and your sisters.)Snaphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16648866385164116020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-21934822069690707942009-10-12T05:35:05.109-07:002009-10-12T05:35:05.109-07:00Sarah - you are very brave, first to have done wha...Sarah - you are very brave, first to have done what you did to protect your girls, and second to share this with us. I had a rocky childhood (like many) and I have to say, it taught me many things: compassion, the value of love and friendship, and the ability to judge whether a person is good for me or not. Hard lessons, but ones that I have taken with me. So will your girls. They will be as strong as oak trees, and that strength will get them through life's bumps. I'm so sorry you had to go through this, and so grateful they are back with you now. xo Pam<br />PS I have an award for you on my blog! :)yoborobohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07066130552106363077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-42071609574837372962009-10-11T22:12:24.750-07:002009-10-11T22:12:24.750-07:00Your post took my breath away. You are so brave.
...Your post took my breath away. You are so brave.<br /><br />Sending love and prayers to you and your girls. <br /><br />xoJoanna Jenkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10836376588710862173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-55912007010350005422009-10-11T21:06:01.660-07:002009-10-11T21:06:01.660-07:00Dear Sarah, I love the story of the pebble. As for...Dear Sarah, I love the story of the pebble. As for the rest, you're right. Nothing but to move forward in the now. I believe we all have our own angels watching us. Each of your kids has one (or two) watching out for them. And their own journeys to run. You're doing the best you can with the knowlege you have and that's always the best we can do... (((Hugs!))) xoxo BBarbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14602177425483410112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-46542739749811452862009-10-11T20:39:24.901-07:002009-10-11T20:39:24.901-07:00I too prefer to throw that pebble in the pond and ...I too prefer to throw that pebble in the pond and not wear it around my neck. Yes, we are all human and we are all going to make mistakes, some even that we regret. Holding onto regret will only make us unhappy and very unproductive. <br /><br />The clam chowder sounds so yummy...<br /><br />(((HUGS)))Dedehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02821482775305463539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7245705742183322956.post-12112906631996022352009-10-11T20:04:07.211-07:002009-10-11T20:04:07.211-07:00Sarah you are so insightful. My Grandfather did c...Sarah you are so insightful. My Grandfather did commit suicide because he was not allowed to see his kids. His ex wife (not my Grand ma) Took them to an orphanage and told them their Father was dead. When he and my Mom went to get them they wouldn't allow him to even see them. They drove off with his little boy running behind the car, yelling Daddy! This was in the 1950's. My poor Mom then lost her Mom to cancer within the same year, and my Brother 5 years later. We really need to enjoy the good times. Nothing is here forever. Do not take anything for granted.Halloween Spirithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04637597203799081715noreply@blogger.com